The LIFE Business is creating active fathers
Are you an absent father? This is a question that hit me right in the gut while reading a book from the LIFE business on being a great dad. As I write this article God has blessed me with a wonderful wife and three incredible daughters (and twins on the way!). I guess I should have been more specific as a young man when I prayed to be surrounded by beautiful women! I truly consider it a calling to be a dad, a privilege not a right.
When I first started reading about being a dad I would have given myself a decent score, I mean compared to other dads I was good, wasn’t I? Being absent is not just a physical measurement but an emotional one as well. Are you really present while you watch the game, mow the lawn, hide out in the garage or work on your honey do lists? I have realized that both quality and quantity matter when investing in my kids. When I am with my kids I need to be with them, fully engaged. However, life is busy and I have so many commitments to fulfill. I know, I did not say it would be easy but it is needed.
I personally had to start taking control of my time, planning quality time with my family. I refuse to add to the statistics, as a matter of fact I am committed to improving the statistics. First at home and then in my community. Here are the 5 ways to be present as a father and raise great kids. This is just a starting point, do your own reading and mentoring to go all in.
Five things I have learned from the LIFE Business
1) Love their mother: The most important lesson to give your sons and daughters is what it looks like to love your spouse. They will grow up and be a copy of you, is the original worth copying? Would you want your daughter to have a husband like you?
2) Love your children: Here is how your kids spell love: Time. Love is the foundation to raising great kids. Take time to learn about your kids and invest time in those categories they enjoy. It amazing me to see how our kids look to us to be affirmed. They will grow in confidence with your love and time.
3) Discipline your children: The bible says, Proverbs 22:6:train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Children thrive under guidelines and gain confidence and trust when you guide them through proper discipline. It saddens me to see the lack of basic discipline in kids today. Start with the basics please, thank you, respect for adults and manners.
4) Believe in and encourage them: Our children may act tough at times but they are very fragile and impressionable. Your belief and encouragement can start to foster greatness in them at a young age, who knows what they can accomplish in life with the right start.
5) Pursue excellence in your own life: How many times have your heard someone say, “I want my kids to have a better life so they can do something great.” Do you realize that what you are teaching them is when they grow up to focus on helping their kids do something and they grow up to help their kids and NO ONE ever does anything great! What your kids need is an example of doing something great that inspires them to do something great, which inspires their kids to do something great…..Imagine the legacy of great things that could happen!
Our kids have watched us struggle, work hard, fail, get back up and win. Life will not be fair so lets prepare our kids to be champions and succeed in spite of that. Teach them to have a great attitude, persistance, and a purpose in life.
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